"People ought to seek out the genuine pleasure of de-centering themselves," Jia Tolentino said in an interview
I read this week. YES
, I thought. YES!
She was speaking about the way that lists of books by Black authors have been suggested to non-Black readers as an "eat your vegetables" learning experience or a duty to be fulfilled—when, in fact, it is a joy to be taken outside of your highly specific perspective and into someone else's.
This sentiment also applies to how I feel about having co-authored a book. I can't tell you that the writing process was pleasurable in every single minute, but finding the center between
me and Aminatou, and creating a single narrative of our two very different experiences in this friendship, was deeply rewarding. I'm sure I will go on to write many more things by myself, but this is just one reason our book is so special to me.
officially comes out on Tuesday—although, because everything is weird right now, many people have already received their copies. So it is both out in the world and... not out quite yet. (Turns out that even fixed dates are meaningless in a pandemic!) Anyway, The New York Times calls it
a "thoughtful and highly readable story." We're in The Atlantic
chatting about why we needed an expanded vocabulary for friendship. We took over the Girls' Night In newsletter
, where we recommend our favorite cheesy dips, among other things. We list some of our favorite friendship books
over at Goodreads. And we've been doing a lot of interviews on other podcasts, which you can find here
. (I promise I won't spam you with book promo every single week. Today is an exception.)
On Call Your Girlfriend today, we read an excerpt
. Think of it as a teaser for the audiobook
, which is produced kind of like a podcast: It features our own voices, interview clips so you can hear our sources speaking their own words, and an incredible soundtrack composed by Carolyn Pennypacker Riggs
. Another genuine pleasure!