Power with Heart News - March 2014
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March 2014

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This newsletter now has 1500 subscribers in countries around the world.  In the northern hemisphere, this is the spring newsletter.  In the southern hemisphere, it is the fall newsletter, and around the equator, the weather is very familiar.  Wherever you are, we hope you'll find information in this issue that will help you refine your wise and skillful uses of your power

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Earn CEUs at Home

Featured Mini-Course:
Ethics as Soul Work and World Service

CE Hours =1
This is the highest context for ethical wisdom and vision. Find out more.  Engage yourself in the soul work of your relationship with power and heart.  "The force of love is the same as the force of the soul or truth.  We have evidence of its working a every step.  The universe would disappear without the existence of that force. --Gandhi
There are many other CEU Mini-Courses that you can browse online.

Workshops & Trainings

Boulder, Colorado

Right Use of Power Workshop:
October 4-5, 2014

Facilitator's Training:
October 6-7, 2014

Presented by Cedar Barstow, M.Ed., C.H.T.

Contact: Cedar Barstow

North Carolina

Right Use of Power Workshop:
July 20, 2014

Presented by Julia Corley



Featured Guild Member
Reynold Ruslan Feldman

Reynold Ruslan "Ren" Feldman is our Right Use of Power Institute Guild Member of the month. A retired English professor, dean, and academic vice president, Ren has three degrees in English from Yale, including his Ph.D. He may also be the one individual besides Cedar, his wife of three-and-a-half years, who has experienced the RUOP workshop the most times--eight--including the Facilitators' Training, six. He has also served as a co-facilitator with Cedar twice, most recently last summer in Lewes, England.

Based on his wish to see Cedar's practical-ethics work continued after she is no longer professionally active, he proposed the creation of a RUOP nonprofit institute and a book for the general public. Both now exist, with the latter co-authored by him with Cedar. In the hope of spreading the word about the Right Use of Power, he has created a half-hour radio-interview script about the new book, LIVING IN THE POWER ZONE, which he is currently sending to radio talk-show producers all over the country. Income from book sales will help support the Right Use of Power Institute. The author of six books, Ren has just begun his seventh, tentatively titled THE REAL BASICS--THE IMPORTANT STUFF NO ONE TEACHES US, NOT EVEN IN KINDERGARTEN. He hopes to facilitate his first ("non-Cedar") RUOP workshop with RUPI Guild Administrator Amanda Mahan for members of the criminal- justice system in Boulder this fall.

Fear is Why Workers in Red States Vote Against Their Economic Self-Interest

An Article by Robert Reich
in Nation of Change

Last week’s massive spill of the toxic chemical MCHM into West Virginia’s Elk River illustrates another benefit to the business class of high unemployment, economic insecurity, and a safety-net shot through with holes. Not only are employees eager to accept whatever job they can get. They are also also unwilling to demand healthy and safe environments.  
The spill was the region’s third major chemical accident in five years, coming after two investigations by the federal Chemical Safety Board in the Kanawha Valley, also known as “Chemical Valley,” and repeated recommendations from federal regulators and environmental advocates that the state embrace tougher rules to better safeguard chemicals. 

No action was ever taken. State and local officials turned a deaf ear. The storage tank that leaked, owned by Freedom Industries, hadn’t been inspected for decades. 

But nobody complained. 

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Apologies that Heal
(Part 1)

By Cedar Barstow

"David, tell Randy you're sorry."  "Sorry."  The mother takes 7-year-old David to another part of the playground.  By the sound of the "saaaaawry," I'm guessing that David was being obedient, but he didn't really know what he did, didn't feel like it was his fault, and wasn't sorry at all.  As adults, we hear (or even give) apologies like:  "I'm sorry you felt hurt."  "If I did something that hurt you, I'm sorry."  "I apologize, but I was really distracted by something else."  "I'm sorry, but you should know that I really love you and you shouldn't take it so personally.  It's just the way I am."  "I'm sorry, but you are really making too big a deal of this.  It is just a little thing."  "I'm apologize, but give me a break."  "I'm sorry for the problem you had.  My assistant is normally on top of things."  When we give such an apology, we can say, "But, I apologized!"  When we receive an inauthentic or inadequate apology, it doesn't heal, it doesn't resolve, it doesn't soothe, and the hurt remains unmoved.
Authentic and effective apology is the very core of healing, clarifying, and restoring relationships from interpersonal relationships to organizational relationships to cross-cultural relationships.  A real and well-thought-out can, like forgiveness, although different, cut the cycle of anger, revenge, and hatred.  However, making a genuine apology is extremely vulnerable and challenging because it is like leaping off a cliff into the unknown.  You are not in charge of how your apology will be received.  Your efforts could be harshly rejected, your hopes for healing thrown back in your face. 

A client of mine spent some months working with his shame about having abused his younger sister.  From a most humble place, he wrote them an apology hoping that this could be a first step in restoring their relationship.Several weeks later, the letter was returned to him with "Rejected.  You will not be forgiven," written across his words.  He was devastated.  Over time he began to look at what he could do rather than grieving for the loss of his relationship with his sister. 

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The Undeserving Rich
By Paul Krugman
in The New York Times

The reality of rising American inequality is stark. Since the late 1970s real wages for the bottom half of the work force have stagnated or fallen, while the incomes of the top 1 percent have nearly quadrupled (and the incomes of the top 0.1 percent have risen even more). While we can and should have a serious debate about what to do about this situation, the simple fact — American capitalism as currently constituted is undermining the foundations of middle-class society — shouldn’t be up for argument.

But it is, of course. Partly this reflects Upton Sinclair’s famous dictum: It is difficult to get a man to understand something when his salary depends on his not understanding it. But it also, I think, reflects distaste for the implications of the numbers, which seem almost like an open invitation to class warfare — or, if you prefer, a demonstration that class warfare is already underway, with the plutocrats on offense.

The result has been a determined campaign of statistical obfuscation. At its cruder end this campaign comes close to outright falsification; at its more sophisticated end it involves using fancy footwork to propagate what I think of as the myth of the deserving rich.

Read the rest of the article here

"I'm SORRY!" Really?

by Bruce Weinstein, Ph.D.
The Ethics Guy

Do you apologize too often?  Do you know someone who does?  You may be interested in watching the Huffington Post Live panel discussion on the topic of apologies, in which I participated last night.  
I'm always interested in what you have to say about the issues I present to you (even if I'm not always able to respond, for which I am truly sorry).  Today, however, I'm particularly interested in what you think about the phrase "my bad."

As I say in the discussion, I believe this is yet another example of the debasement of the English language.

Do you agree?  Why or why not?  Do tell!

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