Power with Heart News - April 2016
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April 2016

Dear <<First Name>>!

You will note a theme in this newsletter.   The poems and articles illuminate different facets of the power of our hearts.

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In this issue you will find:


We are very happy to invite you to take the NEW continuing education courses.
We were officially approved by the National Board for Certified Counselors to offer CE credits on February 18th, 2016!  This is the completion of a long process.
These new courses are based on the 10th Anniversary Edition of the Right Use of Power: The Heart of Ethics.  They are now completely on-line.  You can down-load all the material from the book or you can read the assigned pages in your own paper copy of the book.  The assessment questions are also on-line and your certificate can be printed out as well!  

There are six 3 CE hour courses:  Overview Course (1 CE hour)--Power with Heart; Dimension 1--Be Informed and Present, the Guided use of power; Dimension 2--Be compassionate and Aware, the Conscious use of power; Dimension 3--Be Connected and Accountable, the Responsible use of power; Dimension 4--Be Skillful and Proactive, the wise use of power; Course 5:  The More Dimension-- Refining your Personal Impact and Becoming Ethically Proactive. There is enough new material that you can take the courses again!  Try it out!.

Find out more about the E-courses here.

Workshops & Trainings

Boulder, Colorado

Right Use of Power Workshop & Teacher Training
July 16 - 19, 2016

Presented by Cedar Barstow
Register Here


Featured RUP Teacher: Eva Fajardo, MA, LMHC, CAP

We wanted to highlight the only YouTube video currently on Right Use of Power which was a webinar by one of our long-time teachers, Eva Fajardo. We also wanted to let you know that the Right Use of Power Institute plans to create it's own YouTube Channel this year with videos featuring RUPI's founder, Cedar Barstow as well as other RUP teachers. Stay tuned!

You can click on the picture above or click here to watch the video. Note: Eva's part starts about three and half minutes into the video.

Eva earned a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with honors (1974) from the University of Florida in Gainesville, Florida, and a Master of Arts Degree in Mental Health Counseling (1989) from Rollins College in Winter Park, Florida.

She completed her Master’s internship, specializing in psychoneuroimmunology, at The Getting Well Program in Orlando, Florida, where she counseled persons with chronic illness. For eight years, Eva worked in the field of addictions treatment in both private hospital and public agency settings. She served for three years as the Clinical Director of a women’s residential and outpatient addictions treatment program. In the addictions setting, Eva has worked as counselor, outpatient coordinator, assessment/ intervention specialist, educator, board member and clinical director. She has been a Certified Addictions Professional (C.A.P.) since 1990.

Eva entered private practice in November 1992, offering general mental health and addictions counseling to individuals, couples, groups and families. Eva continues to maintain an active private practice, which now includes consultation and coaching.

In January 2003, Eva was invited to teach as an adjunct Professor in the Psychology Department of Hamilton Holt School of Rollins College. She also develops and presents trainings and workshops. She has presented in corporate and small business settings as well as in workshops with colleagues, students, clients and the general population.

Since 1973, Eva has been exploring the common ground between psychology and spirituality. Concurrent with her academic work, she has studied with prominent spiritual teachers and guides in both eastern and western traditions. She integrates her insights from these wisdom teachings with those from current best practices in counseling to offer her clients a wealth of opportunities for growth.

A New Breed

By Maya Shaw Gale

She is not impressed with the power mongrels.
She has studied them for a lifetime,
their bark, their bite
their smooth seductive smiles.
She has made a promise to her soul
that she will never play their game,
keeping her own power on a short leash
for all these years until 
it was sufficiently trained 
to choose a different path
when given its freedom---
to walk with humility, 
attuned and in stride with those it would lead
instead of racing to get ahead of the pack.

She is clear that her power will only speak softly
and even though it now dares 
to carry that proverbial big stick,
it will remember with respect 
its own past history of run and fetch
and what it felt like to be on the other side of the fence.

Now, as a woman of evolutionary vision
with the Grandmothers urging her on,
she conspires with her sisters and brothers
to transform the genetics of power
into a brand new hybrid breed
that she has already named--
Power With Heart.

Standing in your Strength while Staying in your Heart

by Cedar Barstow

“My wife tells me it’s like I’m two different people. She can’t deal with how angry I get, and then I turn around and I’m so kind, almost too kind. I’ve tried so hard. I spend so much agonizing time managing myself.”

John is coming to see me for psychotherapy. He tells me about his childhood—lack of attention, drunken family scenes, unexpectedly finding pornographic pictures at age 9, sexual abuse, and no one to protect him.

As we talk, he notices that there is some tightness in his left leg above his knee. He puts his hand there and says, “It’s like it is tense, stuck, frozen. It is familiar. I used to feel this for days when I was a kid. The only way I could cope was to go away as much as I could. I would stay out all night. I’d hang out with an edgy crowd. I was literally running away.”

If this tightness could speak, I wonder aloud, what would it be saying?

“Help me!”

What kind of help?

“I just want to … I just want to rip them apart, punish them, hurt them.”

Frozen rage, huh?

“Yes, it feels good to say it out loud, to own it. They are stupid hillbillies, stupid hillbillies.”

John notices that the tension in his leg is loosening up. Soon he begins sobbing.

“They are immigrants, they have nothing, nothing, no education, nothing,” he says. “I feel so bad for them.”

John is having two strong feelings—anger and compassion. He feels a little anger, and then it dissolves into understanding and compassion. And when he is feeling so kind, he suppresses the anger. So, these two feelings kind of cancel each other out.

I notice that both of John’s hands are moving now. Can he focus on them for a little while? Can he show me with his hands how his anger and his kindness relate to each other?

Read the rest of the article here.

A Blessing for the Brokenhearted
By Jan Richardson

There is no remedy for love but to love more. – Henry David Thoreau

Let us agree
for now
that we will not say
the breaking
makes us stronger
or that it is better
to have this pain
than to have done
without this love.
Let us promise
we will not
tell ourselves
time will heal
the wound
when every day
our waking
opens it anew.
Perhaps for now
it can be enough
to simply marvel
at the mystery
of how a heart
so broken
can go on beating,
as if it were made
for precisely this—
as if it knows
the only cure for love
is more of it
as if it sees
the heart’s sole remedy
for breaking
is to love still
as if it trusts
that its own stubborn
and persistent pulse
is the rhythm
of a blessing
we cannot
begin to fathom
but will save us

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Aspects of Moral Character

By Susan Springer, Rector of St. Johns Episcopal Church, Boulder, Colorado

In this reflection, Susan speaks about power with heart in describing the conscious development of radiant and energizing love.

On my way to Meeker Park last weekend to hike in the national forest I passed a Canada goose on the side of the road, standing and staring at the passing cars. Instinctively I slowed down, and then realized the goose wasn’t preparing to cross—he or she was keeping a mourning watch over the body of his or her fallen mate: I caught a glimpse of tangled wings and feathers in a heap in the tall grass. The pair must have taken off from the river and flown low across Highway 7. The first goose made it across. The second must have been hit by a car and fell dead and crumpled in the ditch. This image deeply troubled and stayed with me, and it keeps revisiting me, and so I take it as a prompt to write about the virtues of devotion and steadfastness.

I’d been thinking about those virtues anyway, having just buried two exemplars of them the weekend prior to my hike. Two people who died much too soon, one suddenly and tragically, the other protractedly and tragically; both of them like geese leaving behind mates who now stand by the side of the road, staring numbly at passing cars. That’s what grief does to you.

If you don’t already know the person at whose funeral you are to preside, you get to know them quickly through the conversations you have with their families. You get to know them through the eulogies presented at their funerals. You get to know them in the depth of grief that attends their dying. Eulogies often list the accomplishments a person tallied up during his or her lifetime, but they also usually touch as well upon the virtues a person embodied.

Read the rest of the article here.
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