Power with Heart News - December 2015
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December 2015

Dear <<First Name>>!

Holiday Greetings!

Amanda, Ren, Cedar, and the Right Use of Power Board of Directors send warm good wishes to you as we enter the new year: 2016.  May we celebrate more wise and skillful uses of power and respond wisely and effectively to abuses of power.   

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In this issue you will find:

Featured E-Course

With changes and upgrades to the the RUP CE structure, we have four Right Use of Power Courses completely on-line. They are organized around each of the four dimensions of right use of power:  Be Informed, Be Compassionate, Be Connected, Be Skillful.  You get 3 CE hours for each dimension. Find out more about the E-courses here.

Workshops & Trainings


Boulder, Colorado

Advanced Teacher Training
March 11-14, 2016

Presented by Cedar Barstow
Find out more and apply here

Boulder, Colorado

Right Use of Power Workshop & Facilitator Training
July 16 - 19, 2016

Presented by Cedar Barstow
Register Here


Featured RUP Teachers 

We are excited to report that there are a growing number of professional training programs that now integrate right use of power concepts and curriculum into their ethics training. Here are a few places and RUP teachers. This is exciting!
  • Appamada Zen Center, Austin TX, Peg Syverson
  • Body Therapy Institute, Siler City, NC, Julia Corley
  • East West Healing Arts Institute, Madison/Milwaukee WI, Kathy Ginn
  • Hakomi Psychotherapy Trainings nationwide, Rebecca Lincoln, Julia Corley, Rupesh Chhagan, Morgan Holford, Magi Cooper
  • Central Connecticut State University Graduation Marriage and Family program, Joan Calvert
  • City University of Seattle, Masters in Counseling program, Edmonton, Canada campus, Deena Martin
  • State of Texas graduate supervision program for counselors, Sabrina Kindell
  • Naropa University, Masters Degree in Counseling program, Boulder, CO, Uri Talmor
  • Restorative Justice Training, Boulder, CO, Amanda Aguilera

Featured Quote

"When there is much to be done, don't be afraid, take courage and do it.  When there is little to be done, don't be hasty."

- Rilke

Call to Earth

(Forwarded by Dan Barstow)

In this amazing video, the global community of astronauts deliver a most powerful message about our home planet Earth.  The astronauts are scientists and engineers - and they are humans like the rest of us, hoping to leave a better world for all who follow.

We must now use our global power wisely and effectively in putting policies and individual attitudes and actions in place to support the agreements made in Paris last week.

View the Video Here

Alchemy of Yes

by Cedar Barstow

When there is a role power difference, one person is in an up-power role and the other person is in a down-power role.  Up and down is simply directional.  It does not indicate better or worse.  But up and down does indicate different roles, responsibilities and vulnerabilities.
Both partners in the power differential relationship need to understand and own their roles.  The quality of relationship, creativity, collaboration and effectiveness that results when both up- and down-power parties say "yes" to these roles is what I call the alchemy of yes.  Imagine a group of people standing in two circles with the members of the inner circle facing the members of the outer circle.  Those in the inner circle are in an up-power role while those in the outer circle are in a down-power role.  In my training, I invite those in the inner circle to think about the ways they say a "half-yes" to their role power.  There are many reasons, for example, "I'm exhausted."  "I don't have enough confidence."  "I don't like this role."  "I didn't choose it."  "I'm afraid of causing harm."  "I want everyone to like me."  Then they show their "half-yes" in their body and posture.  The outer circle in down-power roles experience their responses to their up-power partners.  Responses are remarkably dramatic:  "I want to protect myself."  "I don't want to engage."  "I want to walk away." "My space feels so small." "I don't have confidence that I will get what I need." "I want to take care of her."  Next the up-power people find their "yes" to their role power and embody this "yes."  There are striking responses of interest, safety, confidence, spaciousness, willingness and good feeling about the relationship.    
We then shift to the outer circle and the down-power people name and embody their "half-yes" to their role.  "I don't trust anyone in authority."  "I don't want to give up control."  "I'm tired."  "I don't want to have to do anything.  I just want to be taken care of." "I'm afraid." "Just like always before, this just isn't going to work." "I could be hurt here.  Better be very cautious." "I want and deserve to be the leader here."  Up-power participants noticed their responses to their half-yes clients or employees.  "Looks like really hard work to me."  "They look so scared underneath the outer shell."  "I'm going to have to earn their trust by demonstrating using my power well."  One participant noticed that in her actual job, this is the way most of her clients begin in therapy.  In fact, there is wisdom in down-power caution.  The down-power role is a high-risk role that requires trust in the good ethics of the up-power person.  This trust needs to be earned by demonstrations of personal integrity, and role sensitivity and skill.  A down-power participant noted that the more her up-power partner stayed in her "yes," the more he felt better about being in down-power. When the down-power folks found their "yes" to their role, they felt positive, engaged, hopeful, safe and trusting.  And when both circles were owning and saying yes to their roles, the relationships felt collaborative and healthy.   

Two-sided "yes" relationships are what we strive for and are the most productive ones.  Collaborative and healthy relationships are possible and productive within structures that embody a role power difference.  Collaboration doesn't require banishing the power differential or making hierarchy the enemy.  Hakomi Trainer, Morgan Holford, describes the power differential as "linear and round at the same time: right use of hierarchy as a vertical linear line and right use of relationship as a circular surround."

Read the rest of the article here.

A Trip to the Grocery Store
(Forwarded by Sara Boas)

In this story from Cracking the Codes: The System of Racial Inequity, a film from World Trust, author and educator Joy DeGruy shares how her sister-in-law uses her white privilege to stand up to systemic racial inequity. For more information on this film, go to

View the Video Here

Spirit Breaks Out
(Forwarded by David Reid)

This extraordinarily beautiful dance visually illustrates how connected we are with others and with the liminal power field of energy and information that we are embedded in.  Magical.

View the Video Here
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