Power with Heart News - October 2015
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October 2015

Dear <<First Name>>!


We hope you will enjoy this issue of Power With Heart News. We want to especially thank Reynold Feldman and Linda Barstow for finding and sending us fine articles.

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In this issue you will find:
  • 150% Principle. by Cedar Barstow. This article describes the somewhat ubiquitous yet very significant idea that while both people in a relationship where there is a difference in power are 100% responsible for the health of the relationship, those in the up-power role have an additional 50% greater responsibility.  Find out why this 50% difference is so significant.
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  • Reminder about upcoming workshops
  • CE Credit Hours  - An update
  • Teacher of the Month - Sandra Gaskill - With Video! - Reading time - 2 minutes
  • How the Wolves Changed the River - Video - Watch time - 4 minutes
  • Romance in the Computer Age - David Brooks suggests that faced with the exponential growth of tasks that are performed by technology, we should ask, "What are the activities that we humans, driven by our deepest nature or the realities of daily life, will simply insist be performed by other humans?"  He describes these tasks as mostly relational   "Being in a position of authority or accountability.  Being a caregiver.  Being part of a team.  Transactional jobs are declining, but relational jobs are expanding."  These are exactly the jobs that call for sensitivity and skill in the use of role power!
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  • Featured Quote - Reading time - 1 minute
  • To Stop Crime, Hand Over Cash - by Devone L. Boggan, The New York Times. Reading time - 5 minutes

Featured E-Course

With changes and upgrades to the the RUP CE structure, we have four Right Use of Power Courses completely on-line. They are organized around each of the four dimensions of right use of power:  Be Informed, Be Compassionate, Be Connected, Be Skillful.  You get 3 CE hours for each dimension. We are in the process of upgrading our online CE Course offering on our website. For now you can access them at a


Workshops & Trainings


Madison, Wisconsin

The Power of Communication & Presence
November 1, 2015

Presented by Kathy Ginn
Click here for more information


Boulder, Colorado

Advanced Teacher Training
March 11-14, 2016

Presented by Cedar Barstow
Mark your calendars! Information coming soon....

Boulder, Colorado

Right Use of Power Workshop & Facilitator Training
July 16 - 19, 2016

Presented by Cedar Barstow
Mark your calendars! Information coming soon....


Teacher of the Month: Sandra Gaskill

What Would You Give Your Life For? -
Watch a video by Sandra.

From Sandra:
In the last year, I have realized that I’ve been underusing my power partially due to unresolved shame, fear, and trauma.  As I’ve been reconciling and integrating these, I’ve been taking risks to be more visible, speak my truth (hence creating video blogs!), embrace my messy humanness, and step into my power.  As an RUP teacher, I love supporting others in their explorations around power.  As a long time athlete, I’m excited to see how I can apply RUP in the sports world. 

To view more of my video blogs, go to my YouTube site, RadicallyReal.  To find out more about me or connect with me: or 303-579-7330.  (Both of my websites are under construction, but will be up soon. and

Featured Quote

"There is guidance for each of us, and by lowly listening we shall hear the right word... Place yourself in the middle of the stream of power and wisdom that flows into your life. Then, without effort, you are impelled to truth and to perfect contentment."    

- Ralph Waldo Emerson

To Stop Crime, Hand Over Cash

by Devone L. Boggan, The New York Times

Richmond, Calif. — IN 2007, this city of about 100,000 people, north of Berkeley, had the dubious distinction of being the ninth most dangerous in America. That year saw a total of 47 homicides. In some neighborhoods, gunfire was almost a daily event.

At one point, the City Council considered asking the governor to declare a state of emergency and send in the National Guard. Instead, in 2007, the city created the Office of Neighborhood Safety. (I am the founding director.) Our mission was simple: to tackle this epidemic of gun violence that was killing so many young men, mostly in our minority communities.

Read the rest of the article here.

150% Principle

by Cedar Barstow

“I’m trying to imagine ethics without an awareness of power. That would be like trying not to step on anyone’s toes, without an awareness of one’s feet.” —Susan Mikesic

The power differential is the inherently greater power and influence that helping professionals have as compared to the people they help. Understanding both the value and the many impacts of the power differential is the core of ethical awareness. Written codes for ethical behavior are based on the strong positive and negative impacts of this power differential.

People seeking help are in a position in which they must trust in the knowledge and guidance of their caregiver. This results in a greater-than-ordinary vulnerability. Consequently, people are unusually susceptible to harm and confusion through misuses (either under- or overuse) of power and influence.

Examples of Power Inequality

“The impact of the role, control, and power difference between client and therapist is very strong and also very subtle, and thus demands a strong ethical stance. In brief, your role as the therapist [or any helping professional] is to create a safe space, empower your client, protect your client’s spirit, and to see a wider perspective.” —Hakomi Institute Code of Ethics preface

Read the rest of the article here.

10th Anniversary Edition is Out!

With 100 new pages and beautiful new cover, this newest work of Cedar's is ready to be shipped! There is new material in every chapter as well as new sections on apology, forgiveness, power differential and collaboration, shadow of power,  power and "isms," challenges, four dimensions, and grievance processes.

“This is an outstanding resource guide. It is comprehensive, clear, inspirational, and practical. A great contribution to a shift in ethics education.”

Angeles Arrien, Ph.D.
Author of “The Four-Fold Way” and “Signs of Life”

Buy the New Edition Here!

How the Wolves Changed the River

This amazing video shows how one single intervention:  the reintroduction of wolves, heals a whole ecosystem.  Talk about right use of power as the ability to have an effect or to have influence!

View the video here.

The New Romantics in the Computer Age

by David Brooks, The New York Times

Just once I’d like to have a college student come up to me and say, “I really wanted to major in accounting, but my parents forced me to major in medieval art.” That probably won’t happen. It always seems to be the parents who are pushing their children in the “practical” or mercenary direction.

These parents are part of the vast apparatus — college résumés, standardized tests, the decline of humanities majors — that has arisen to make our culture more professional and less poetic.

But you see a counterreaction setting in. You see, here and there, signs of a new romanticism.

Ironically, technological forces may be driving some of the romantic rebirth. As Geoff Colvin points out in his book “Humans Are Underrated,” computers will soon be able to do many of the cognitive tasks taught in places like law schools and finance departments.

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