Love your wee self!
It's that time of year again 'hallmark' day is coming up! If you're in a happy relationship you may feel pressure to impress or spend lots of money on roses or gifts. If you're single you may feel pressure to get a date or may feel left out believing everyone else is getting cards, roses and gifts. It's crazy how we allow arbitrary dates to dictate how we should feel or how or when we show our love....
So this year why not do something radical and choose to use the constant heart and 'luv' reminders everywhere as prompts to send loving kindness to yourself! It's only by loving ourselves that we can really love another - I think I've mentioned this a few times before - but we need to hear it over and over again as it's so counter-cultural. All the other messages say love is outside but actually it does start within.
Every month in my Mindful Self-Compassion (MSC) workshop (and on my 8-week MSC course) I am helping people to do it. This month's MSC workshop will focus on how to love yourself. Self-love is not selfish nor self-indulgent. People who love themselves are naturally more loving to everyone around them. So when you learn how to love yourself you will simultaneously love others better too. :)
If you can't make Sunday's workshop (it's almost full up) Kat Farrents from Movement for Modern Life suggests '5 ways to fall in love with yourself this valentine's day'. Or you may like to read this 'meditation on gratitude and joy' from Jack Kornfield or from the great teacher Thich Nhat Hanh on 'romantic and true love'.
My Immeasurable Minds blog got hacked this month and I lost my last few blog posts... Such a shame! But it was probably my fault as I had been neglecting it... So I updated it and wrote a helpful post on how to give yourself a 'self-compassion break'. Really helpful if your just not sure where to start with self-compassion or self-love. Get it here.
If you are single and feeling lonely this valentine's day - please don't give up hope! You never know when you will meet the person who is right for you. I was single this time last year and now i'm all loved up and very happy - we met not long after valentines last year. Some advice:
1. Everything has it's own time. Be happy now (as best you can!), don't expect a relationship, a person or any material thing to make you happy.
2. Be kind to yourself. I'm sure my practice of mindful self-compassion helped me to 'be ready' to be in serious relationship.
3. Have fun! Valentines night can be 'mates night' instead of date night!
Video of the month
I'm short for time so i'm making this one minute video my video of the month! (Still from it pictured above) It's the launch video for my year as Centra NI's mindfulness ambassador. I'm really proud to be part of the #LiveWell and #LiveTodayNI campaign for Centra because it's covering all aspects of wellbeing including fitness and nutrition. I'll be working along side fellow ambassadors Jane McClenaghan (for nutrition), Johnny Davis (for Run Together) and Shane McGuigan (for fitness). You can read the official announcement here. Look out for our pics and tips in your local Centra store. There's more to come and i'll be sharing everything on my social media over the next few months. So like me on Facebook, follow me on Twitter and see me on Instagram. :)
Quote of the month
"If somebody doesn’t begin to provide some kind of harmony, we will not be able to develop sanity in this world at all.
Somebody has to plant the seed so that sanity can happen on this earth."
—Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche