Have You RSVPd for the
3rd Annual Cookout?
Our 3rd Annual AKPsi Cookout is less than two weeks away! Get ready for food, friends, and fun! This event is a potluck, so we can't make it a success without you. Right now, we are still missing some of the basics. If you haven't added your dish to the list, be sure to do so no later than Wednesday, May 7.
The event will be held on Saturday, May 17 at Sandy Bottom Nature Park in Hampton -starting at 3:00 pm. This is always our biggest brotherhood event of the year, so you don't want to miss out! See you there!
General Body Meeting Recap
On Saturday, May 3, six brothers met at the Pretlow Library in Norfolk for the quarterly general body meeting. During the meeting, future events including possible participation in the CHKD telethon, upcoming Adopt-a-Spot dates, and various Social Second activities for the summer were reviewed.
The meeting also provided an opportunity for discussion on an HRAC scrapbook as well as creation of a new t-shirt for the organization, and ideas to develop a video to share with the 2015 conference team to promote the Norfolk area.
Please watch your email for the official minutes from the meeting.
The next general body meeting will be an informal meeting on Saturday, August 9 at 11 am.
Our brother and Director of Alumni Development, Jeff Hughes, has requested that each AKPsi member update his/her profile on the main website, www.akpsi.org on an annual basis. If you have not done so, please go to the website and update your contact information. If you do not have a profile on the site, you may register online to create one. By doing so, the headquarters can update records for accuracy.
We also encourage you to include your professional information as this can be of great assistance for networking purposes which is why many of us joined this amazing organization.
Updating your profile takes as little as 3-5 minutes. Please take a moment to check your information to make sure we keep you in the loop -not just with the Hampton Roads Alumni Chapter, but with Alpha Kappa Psi as a whole.
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What you Think you Want in Life May be All Wrong. #CareerCurveballs
By Sarah White
For all of my twenties, I was married to the wrong man. And chasing the wrong "dream job."
Growing up, I looked forward to getting married, being a wife, a mom, a career woman and having a home filled with friends, laughter and bbq's. As college graduation came closer and friends were getting engaged - I looked at them with excitement and anticipation of when this life I had fantasized and dreamt about, like many young women do, would happen. And when my high school sweetheart & I finally started planning the wedding, and I got an offer from the company I had hoped for - I thought I was getting everything I had ever wanted in life.
From the outside, I had everything you are told should make you happy - a gorgeous home, two amazing kids, a huge group of friends, a career path that exceeded every goal - yet I wasn't. I wasn't sad either. I always knew something was missing, but at 21, 25, 29 - I didn't have the life experience to know what that was. I was really great at always saying 'yes' and being there for everyone all the time. From the outside, life was great. But it never felt like mine.
When we filed for a divorce shortly before my 30th birthday - it wasn't what I wanted, but no amount of my fighting could change things. It wasn't the life I ever planned. In fact, it was the total opposite. I thought I would rather live a life of "ok" than the fear and stigma that came along with the unknown.
I also learned this lesson in my career. By 23, I had identified the role of industry analyst as the "it" of what I was working towards. I valued the integrity, knowledge & guidance they were able to offer. Around the same time, I met my mentor, who helped shape and guide my career - with some amazing strategic advice every step of they way. I was pushed to do things I didn't understand at the time, leave jobs I loved and take risks. For the next 7 years, every connection I forged, every professional decision I made was strategic.
I had one goal in mind - Principal Analyst of one of the 3 Major Analyst Firms by 35.
I got there at 31.
Left at 32.
I left not because I didn't love the job, or the people or the company - but because after all those years chasing that goal, I realized it wasn't what I ever wanted to start with. The long hours, the excessive travel, the living life on stage and watching everything you say. It didn't feel authentic. I wanted that role because I wanted to change an industry and educate a market. I realized that wasn't what I was actually doing at all.
In a single year, I had to deal with the loss of a marriage and loss of goal job - both of which had become everything I was.
At 32, I had to decide to live an authentic life and be content with my truth.
I looked at the 'dream job' I walked away from - what from it, I was really great at AND I enjoyed doing. I looked at every job I had along the way to get there and did the same thing. I realized what mattered to me professionally was to do work I love (build product strategy, helping companies understand technology, improve products on the market, speak & educate people on technology, etc) with companies that I love to work with.
I then looked at my life and got rid of all those fake friends that sucked energy and time but didn't add value in my life and I assessed what really mattered to me. I decided to make my life, mine. The way I wanted it to be, with the people I wanted in it, not what others expected or told me I should be happy with.
I learned to say no to the wrong things.
I said no to companies who had bad cultures and didn't respect me or their employees. I said no to being around people who didn't respect my values & beliefs the same way I respected theirs. I said no to things that would cause more stress than they were worth.
I learned Time, Relationships & Respect mean far more to me than that title or money ever will.
And now, a few years after both life and #careercurveballs my world couldn't be better. Personally, professionally and everywhere in between all syncs up to the goals I really wanted all along. And I am so grateful for both curveballs hitting unexpectedly and taking away what I had thought I wanted to give me the life I deserve and a life I want.
I learned that sometimes in life, what you think you want isn't what you really want at all.
Sarah White is the founder of Accelir, a Strategic Advisory Firm focused on human capital. Accelir is a next generation analyst firm. "We do all the stuff the analyst firms do -market research studies, blog, craete infographics, write reports, speak at conferences, do webinars, advise vendors and corporate terms on strategy. We just do it a little differently."
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