Martha Treats #168


Completing Past Our Reactions

Due to challenges with the placement of the cover of my new book, Tuck Me In, the printer decided to pull their contract. The email notifying me of this was easily something I could “react to.” I was just about to begin an Hour of Focus call and given the nature of the call I chose in the moment to reply to the email with a simple – please reconsider. 

Then I used the Hour of Focus to write and bring myself into balance. Writing ever so slowly with my pen brings me right to this moment wherein lies all the creative solutions and answers to any challenging situation I have inside of me. If I will patiently listen, acknowledge what is going on and observe before even thinking of a next action I can let go of any reaction. First comes the listening. 

As I kept writing the “wanting to react” diminished, I began seeing a bigger picture and I let go of all the reasons I had that their decision was a “problem.” Clearly there was no urgency in any of this. Now I am open to a creative solution without the emotional turmoil.

What I know to be true is this:  the slower I go the calmer and clearer I become. Each of us has a method (even if not yet revealed) that can lift us beyond the habitual reactive patterns into new solutions and creations. What is your special method for balancing you? A walk in nature, slow stretching, watching your breathing, silent listening, or writing?  

There are endless ways to choose to bring ourselves into the clarity of the moment’s knowing, completing any imbalance. It starts with acknowledging what is and listening inside for our truth. 

[And the printer reversed their decision and we are back on track]

Martha Invitations 

1.  Explore what methods bring greater clarity and balance for you and practice one. 

2.  The next time something happens that you initially see as a disturbance take a few slow long breaths.  

3.  Before reacting to a colleague, spouse, friend or a child just watch and wait and see if there is a better response you could choose. 




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