The 5% Club
The 5% Club* refers to individuals who are always going to be miserable no matter what, meaning no-one can positively influence them!
Years ago, before I mastered the Partner behaviors and attitude, I used to think that 50% of the world was in the 5% Club. Even an 8 year old with basic math skills knows that doesn't add up!
What I came to realise is that when I would go Predator this triggered the other 45% to misbehave as well.
Now that I live in the zone of Partner most of the time, I can truly say that there is a very small percentage of the population that I'm not able to positively influence. The question for you is how do you manage a true card-carrying 5% Club member?
Here are my suggestions:
1. Be sure that you're showing up as a solid partner. This way you know it's not your behaviors or attitude that may be triggering the other person to misbehave.
2. Make up a story to explain their misbehaviour. The story I tell myself is this 5%er may have endured very challenging circumstances in their childhood, and as a result this is the best they can do.
3. Manage the situation as best you can. What I mean by that is move and speak slowly, respond calmly and concisely.
4. Remove yourself from the situation as soon as it's appropriate.
And finally as a bonus and a way to contribute to their healing, send them a bundle of love & positive, green vibes!
Good luck and happy partnering,