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Fall is in the air! So, sit down with that freshly brewed Pumpkin Spice Latte and enjoy this weeks edition as we bring you some great info on parenting, postpartum depression, and breastfeeding-friendly costumes. This week also, we are highlighting Down's Syndrome Awareness, where our friend Heather will share her experience giving birth and her breastfeeding journey with special needs children.  
-TLB Team
Dear Leakies,

As parents we expect certain things to happen along the way. Certainly, we have expectations of our job description. And much of it happens the way we expect. Except none of it actually what we expected. We make plans, we have provisions, and then our kids show us that we're really just flying by the seat of our pants and learning as we go. Course correction will be necessary because we may expect:
  • To sleep.
  • To have children that are developmentally above average.
  • To get to shower daily.
  • To have a home always picture perfect for unexpected company.
  • To not have a picky eater.
  • To be able to flush the toilet without having your child meltdown.
These seem like reasonable expectations and maybe they are but it is likely they may become challenged and challenging. The question sometimes becomes serve the expectation or care for your child.

The truth is, our children are going to break us. And that can be a good thing. 

And then sometimes life just throws us punches that change the whole path. At first that path may seem ugly, overwhelmingly challenging, and potentially very lonely. It may be exactly those things. But it may also open you up to experience beauty you never imagined and when you tell your story, companionship you never expected. We can find beauty in the unexpected. Leaky Heather discovered just that when her infant feeding and parenting journey took an unexpected yet beautiful turn when her daughter was born with Down Syndrome.

What's really important is that we walk the path regardless. 

I've shared how my pregnancies destroyed so many of my expectations, so much so that I survived because of a PICC, a semi-permenant IV, and was kept alive with a cocktail of medications. My path wasn't what I expected, but I've found beauty in the healing (I share that here) and now have a woven wrap designed to honor that journey.

You may think you're going to be the one giving life to your children, but the path may have some unexpected diversions ahead and you may find that you're the one being given life (like this mom who was saved by her sweet new baby!)

October is a full of awareness campaigns like Breast Cancer Awareness Month, Down Syndrome Awareness Month, Infant and Pregnancy Loss awareness month, and several more. Whether you can identify and relate to this concerns or know and love someone who can, whatever it is that life throws your way that challenges your expectations, you've got this. You are enough.

And, just a reminder, the way we talk to and about our daughters' and their bodies is going to impact their journey as well. My 14 year old takes a look at how the way we're treating our girls today about how they dress could be impacting their psyche when it comes to breastfeeding in the future. I think she may have a point (See A Girl With A View's thoughts on Boob and Nipple Shaming). Manage your expectations and embrace the path for you and your children.

Happy Parenting Leakies!

Peace,

Jessica Martin-Weber
Founder, TheLeakyBoob.com



 P.S. We have some resources here for breast cancer information because while breastfeeding may reduce your risk of breast cancer, it doesn't eliminate it so know what to look for. And it's International Babywearing Week this week, check out this guide for babywearing safety information.

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Any Potterheads here?
Fun fact: The Leaky Boob was inspired by The Leaky Cauldron. 

So it's only natural that we'd have a Leaky Look featuring Hogwarts inspired Boob Out Fashion! Cosplay or full on costuming, your creativity doesn't have to be stifled by having to have boob access to feed your baby. TLB fashion editor has put together some adorable costume ideas (yes, some include babywearing) that let you weave some magic and still get a boob out. 

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