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Buy a seat, put it in a vehicle, strap kid into it, and boom, child passenger safety! Except while it seems like it should be so simple, there's more to it than we may think. And when it comes to our child's safety, details matter. Where are the best up-to-date resources and support for figuring out how to safely transport our most precious lives? We're talking about child passenger safety with #TLBsafeKids this week! Check out our resources below for support, community, parenting advice and the latest healthy recipes! 
-Your TLB Team
Dear Leakies,

I'm not even going to tell you all the things I did wrong with my older kids when it comes to car seat safety but suffice it to say it was bad. Really bad. There was much I didn't know considering I thought all that was involved in keeping kids safe in a vehicle was getting a car seat (might have used one purchased at a thrift store- ack!), buckling it in a car (this was before LATCH), and strapping them in. 

Now, I could argue that my parents weren't even in car seats and they turned out fine but I know that statistically the whole reason car seats were introduced by my generation was because they absolutely do save lives. My parents turned out fine but many other children of their generation died in car accidents. And my generation also turned out fine with seats that wouldn't even come close to passing today's safety standards but again, I understand that those standards are in place now because statistically they make a difference. Maybe not for me, but for some they have. Maybe those different standards have made a difference for my very own children.

Selecting, installing, and properly using a car seat can be a huge pain, literally and figuratively. I have a scar on my shin from installing one of our car seats a few years ago. I'd gladly take another one, that was the car seat my now 7 year old was in when we were in a hit and run when she was a toddler. She was the only one in the car that day that didn't require medical care.

I've learned a lot even since then and I had learned a lot with her 3 sisters before her. That's why we've teamed up with clek for #TLBsafeKids, to help us all learn together. Sharing information, personal stories, and asking questions, Clek is helping us through #TLBsafeKids keep our little ones safe. All through the year Clek is sharing information and support for families through our Ask the CPST feature on and on their Facebook page and Instagram.

Few topics are as explosive as child passenger safety on parenting social media sites, it can be right up there with breastfeeding in public, formula feeding, and circumcision. There are a lot of feelings tied to how we keep our kids safe and passion can easily turn information sharing into a bludgeon. Even though I sometimes disagree with what I may see on social media and in real life when it comes to child passenger safety there are a few points I have seen come from even the most heated debates.
  1. Parents love their children and want to keep them safe.
  2. Attacking people isn't a teaching tool.
  3. Information can be overwhelming.
  4. Sometimes the minimum is the best someone can do.
  5. Judging doesn't help anyone but the judger and even then only with a false sense of superiority.
Learning happens in stages, even as adults. Finding out there is something to learn, figuring out where to get the information and who to trust (Your mom? Your friend? Do you have to go to car seat school?), and fitting all that in with your life reality is a process. We need to be gentle with ourselves and with others through that.

So what do we really need to know when it comes to car seats?

There's more than can be contained in a newsletter or a single article, in fact, there is car seat school. People can go to car seat school (not really called that) and become Child Passenger Safety Technicians. That's just how much information there is.

You can find a CPST to help you install your seats (they have lots of bruises and scars from doing this so often) and that's probably a good idea. It takes some time but often you can find places that offer that service for free and that time buys you peace of mind.

The rules from one seat may not apply to another. Manufacturers are the experts on their seats and your #1 resource for support. Have a question about your seat? Check your manual and if you still aren't sure, call a manufacturer. 

Be open to learning as you go. Get as much information as you can, but standards and even laws are changing all the time so being open to learning as you go can make a difference in how you're keeping your child safe.

We're here for you, sharing the journey and it's ok if you don't know something, we won't judge. And there's no way it could be as bad as what I did with my older girls- I'm just grateful they have lived to tell about it. We won't judge but we will point out if we see something dangerous because of stories like this heartbreaking one of loss due to unknown car seat misuse. 

Join us this Thursday, September 17th at 9 EST/8 Central/7 Mountain/6 PST for a live chat on The Leaky Boob Facebook page with Diono and Allana Pinkerton, CPST (she went to car seat school). We'll have a giveaway and lots of information to share responding to your questions about car seat safety. Hope to see you there!

Happy Child Passenger Safety Week!

Jessica Martin-Weber
VISIT HERE for more information on Autumn and Winter carseat safety.

This Week On TLB 

What’s Green and White and Safe All Over? Clek Foonf Review

I remember when we were expecting our eldest and we had to pick out a carseat.  I was 20 and The Piano Man was 22.  We walked into the big box store and looked at the display of seats that seemed ridiculously huge to hold such a small person.  It was overwhelming.  We read the features and didn’t understand what they meant.  Intimidated we went and asked for help from a store employee, an even young guy that we hoped would know more than we did.  He showed us the most popular seller, a bucket seat that was part of a travel system and it had a low price point.  Plus, we liked the color scheme.

And just like that, we picked out our seat. We figured all the seats were the same and we knew nothing about checking installation. In the more than 14 years and now 6 children we’ve been dealing with child safety seats since that day, we’ve learned a lot and make our decisions regarding seats in a much more thorough fashion now.  I now know lingo and recommendations, have talked with CPSTs, watched videos, and learned some of the different safety standards around the world.  I know what’s important for our family in a seat and it doesn’t matter what the most popular seat is and the color is just a bonus. 
For the rest of the Clek Foonf review, GO HERE

Shit Sandwich, Anyone?

We talked about this last week but this was too good not to share. What do you say to people who say this?

The breakdown of the (rather obvious) differences between pooping in public (or urinating or having sex) and feeding a baby from a legal and health perspective can be found here

Free to be SAFE!- #TLBsafeKids with 

It’s time for #TLBsafeKids!

Whatever area concerns you the most, our #TLBsafeKids community is here to support you. We may not have all the answers but you have our support in finding them.

We have a team to help provide some inspiration, not with dictating how you decide to keep you family safe, #TLBsafeKids isn’t about acquiring a certain set of safety rules, but honest and respectful sharing of the journey we’re all on to keep our children safe. Kids in tow and personal goals put out there, our team isn’t to glamorize the journey, simply to share together one step at a time.
Want to Join our #TLBsafeKids group?

Ask The Expert

Your questions asked. The Experts answer!

Ask the CPST with - Keeping Your Newborn Safe

Dear Trudy,

I think we have everything just about in place for our new babe due in about 6 weeks but I’m completely overwhelmed and have anxiety about that drive home from the hospital with our new baby. Is there anything special we need to keep in mind with a newborn in a seat? Older babies seem less concerning as they can support their own heads better and have more muscle tone. I know we’ll have to get comfortable driving with our baby but those first few trips are particularly stressing me. I asked about car seat checks at our hospital tour and they said they’ll send a nurse out with us to be sure we have a proper seat but they aren’t responsible for ensuring we are using it properly. What can we do? What do we need to keep in mind with buckling a newborn? 
Thank you for your help!
-Worried in Wisconsin

Dear Worried in Wisconsin,
Having a baby is such an exciting time in life! Having new concerns and worries pop up as you near the big day is perfectly understandable.
You’re right that a newborn baby has a weaker neck and needs help in supporting its head. Installing your car seat so that it’s reclined properly will make sure that your new babe’s head is supported and doesn’t tip forward. Your rear-facing car seat will come with instructions for adjusting the recline and installing it in the vehicle.
For more advice and answers, CLICK HERE

Ask Your Question for an Expert Here!

Boobs and Bottles Around the Web

Rear-Facing Tether: What, Why and How

#LeakyLooks: Safety Wherever You Roam

Have you ever “forced” the coming season? Had it and said “Ok. I’m over it. Let’s move on?” Well this week with #LeakyLooks we’re taking a look at Safety-whether that’s snuggling down for a morning of movies and snuggles on a cloudy Saturday, or that last-minute trip up to Seattle before the seasonal rain hits the I-5 corridor. Let me know in the comments what you’d like to see next as we celebrate a month of #TLBsafeKids!

Remember, Leakies. Fashion-even breastfeeding fashion- is a great way to express who YOU are and tell a story of WHERE you are. Not who anyone else says you need to be, but who YOU want to be today. So shine on. Be YOU. All the way. No regrets. Because you are always ENOUGH.
Want to see where we got these #LeakyLooks? Head over here!

Need Community? A SAFE and encouraging place to find support and answers for all of your breastfeeding questions? Join our TLB Community HERE.

Leaky Chronicles: Real Stories For Real Life

My  Nursing Days Might Be Done

by Karen-a Leaky
"...I go over in my mind what I have done differently with this child than the others that he would wean sooner. Finding myself overwhelmed with four kids with 11 years between the oldest and the youngest, keeping up with activities, and therapies for my child with mild asperger’s syndrome, I was fortunate to bring in childcare help. At times when I had things to do, my toddler was distracted by getting snacks or cups of rice milk, or other activities. Being busy with other activities, there were times that I wasn’t able to be there at bed time to put my little guy to bed. We were blessed that he has always been a great sleeper, but that meant that there weren’t the middle of the night feedings (since he was around 2 months old – that was a first for me) and he was even so flexible that as a toddler he would go to bed for Daddy or a babysitter with a story and a cuddle. In general, I limited that to one time a week, but still, it could be why he was ready to move on so soon." MORE HERE

Lactation Snack Station Biscuits
by Carrie Saum


  • 2 cups sliced strawberries
  • 2 cups blanched almond flour (I use Bob’s Red Mill)
  • 2 eggs*
  • 3/4 cup butter, cold and cubed, or melted coconut or avocado oil
  • 1 scant cup tapioca or cassava flour (wheat flour can be substituted)
  • 2 Tbsp raw honey, or other sweetener
  • 2 tsp apple cider vinegar (omit if using egg replacer)
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1/2 tsp sea salt
  • 1/2 tsp baking powder
  • 1/2 tsp nutmeg

*If you want to make this egg-free, go for it!  This can also boost your milk supply. To replace two eggs, I used 2 Tbsp ground flax seeds, 3 Tbsp water, 1 Tbsp apple cider vinegar.


  1. Combine the almond flour, tapioca flour, baking soda, salt, and nutmeg in a medium mixing bowl.
  2. Add butter to the flour mixture and cut into flour until the butter is in tiny pieces. Or go easy on yourself and whisk in oil.
  3. In a small bowl, combine eggs (or egg replacement), vanilla extract, apple cider vinegar, and honey.  Whisk until fully incorporated.
  4. Add egg mixture to flour mixture and stir until barely combined.
  5. Spoon mixture onto a parchment paper-lined baking sheet and smush with your hand, or bake in lined muffin tins.
  6. Bake at 350 degrees for 18-20 minutes.
  7. Remove from oven and dust with a *tiny* bit of raw cane sugar. (optional)
  8. Allow to cool for 15 minutes before eating, and cool completely before storing in an airtight container.

11 Ways To Keep Food Allergy Kids Safe

It’s back to school time.  I heard the internet’s collective cheer as parents and children started a new school year, and then the following week grumble as new clothes lost their shimmer and the reality of the next nine months starts to settle in like a fog.
With every new school year comes an increasing debate around food allergies.  Peanuts, tree nuts, soy, dairy, wheat, avocado, strawberries, eggs, fish, chicken, you name it, someone is allergic to it.  (Whatever we are doing as a society with and to our food, it’s beginning to emerge as allergies in our children. But that’s another post.)
My son, E, is one of those allergy kids.  In fact, his allergies are so severe, I cannot send him to group childcare or preschool.  I want him to have the socialization.  I think it’s incredibly important. But his list of allergens is so extensive, group settings with other small children just isn’t safe. READ MORE

This Week On Our Stable Table  

Honestly Ever After {Part Three}

We are, generally speaking, social and lonely people. The draw of validation from someone can be overwhelmingly magnetic — it often keeps us near someone we would otherwise detach from were it not for the constant attention. It’s apparent evidence that we’re someone worthy of intimate love, and a distraction from ever having to hang out and get to know, truthfully, our own silly selves. We crave that connection. Even as I sit here and write, contentedly eating GORP in bed while my cat bats at my toes and I’m feeling like I’m doing this un-partnered, casual dating and split custody thing pretty well, I crave it. I dream of being swept off my feet by a kind and compassionate man with dazzling eyes and a killer smile and a SF Giants baseball cap and a tattoo of Ferdinand the gentle bull, who inspires me to create and to write and who reads what I write and doesn’t criticize my grammar or run-on sentences and who wants to dance and believes in karma and prefers to eat plants and cleans the toilet ~ around the pissy base, too ~ and who is working hard to make this world a better place and loves people and is motivated and making good shit happen. That guy. Read More

Beyond Moi

life. family. love.

This Week On Beyond Moi

The negligent parent – failure is not an option

“Shitshitshitshitshit” and “oh God, please” were the two thoughts that filled my head while I raced to the car.  I don’t run often – certainly not often enough.  But when I do, I am still capable of outrunning my kids, something I keep expecting to change as they get older and more and more athletic.  One second I’m enjoying a leisurely Saturday afternoon lunch with my wife and 14 yr old daughter, EarthBaby, and the next, the spell is broken when Jessica innocently asks “you think SugarBaby has been sleeping this whole time?”A confused look on my face, and then, world-shattering dread sweeps over me as I realize that I....."  
Can I admit this here?  Can I willfully place myself in front of the firing squad? READ HERE


Beyond Whining 

"...When it comes to children whining, namely: our own children whining, it is a sound that has a dynamic effect on our nerves as parents. It quickly escalates from irritating, to annoying, to ARRRRRRRRRGH! HOW DO I MAKE IT STOP??? – in about the time it takes me to finish typing a sentence, or would take me if I COULD COMPLETE A *BLEEP*-ING THOUGHT!

Which, of course, is exactly the question we are supposed to ask. The sound of children whining and crying is supposed to bother us to the point of taking action. If you ignore it long enough (20 seconds? 30?), the action you end up taking may turn hurtful, or even violent or abusive. Not the best choice, but still a choice for those who would choose to avoid choosing a different choice (I may be losing my mind even thinking about the effects of whining…). READ MORE

Teens: Will You Crush Them or Build Them Up?

I’m tired of how people complain about teens. And I agree with a lot of teens that grown ups can be so annoying and just don’t get it.

Calling them entitled, incompetent, ignorant, and overly sensitive, many talk about how teens don’t think and just want to be entertained, so many adults I know complain about how teens don’t think. But the teens I know and have known are smart, questioning, deep thinkers who have a surprising amount of wisdom to share when they actually find someone who will listen. Not sucked into the day to day doldrums of paying bills, teens have a brief moment in time when they can imagine the world differently and if we would stop dismissing them we could actually learn from them. Remarkable people, teens are not to be ignored.

Teens are amazing. One of the most powerful resources for fresh ideas and a new perspective that this world has and SO often we blow it. READ MORE

TLB Comics: Isn't It the Leaky Truth

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