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April 1, 2015  -   Issue #18
Changing Your Story Can Be A Catalyst For Working Happy
The story you tell yourself impacts how you experience your work. By story, I mean how you explain to yourself and to others the state of your career and happiness in your work. The range of our stories is vast – we can be heroes, victims, clowns, lost souls, happy campers, powerless or powerful. What story do you tell yourself about your career and happiness at work?
 
The story you tell yourself creates a lens through which you see your experiences at work. As with rose-color glasses your story can “color” your experience and attitudes at work. Looking through a victim lens, everyone is the enemy and you are powerless. Looking through a hero lens, you honor yourself and your talents.
 
You want a clear and powerful lens to look through as you assess your experiences and make decisions about your career. A clear lens allows you to see the truth and accurately assess the situation you are in. If you “change your story” you will create that clear lens and be able to move forward from there.
 
Here are some ways you can begin to change your story:
 
  • Acknowledge that you have choice in every situation. Hard choices may have to be made or small ones that move you forward, bit by bit. No one should make key choices for you.
  • Know you are the “CEO” of your career. Take accountability and create a direction to go in that leads to working happy.
  • Be kind to yourself and know that none of us are perfect. We are all growing and learning. Everyone has both failures and successes.
  • Observe the story you are telling yourself now and what effect it is having on you.
 
Once you get a sense of your current story, create a new one that affirms you and sets a new direction. Let your new story guide you and tell it to the world. Guaranteed it will lead you to working happy!


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I am losing my confidence at work. No matter how hard I try, it is not enough for my boss. She criticizes me and is never satisfied. What can I do?
A: I am sorry you are going through this; it is a disheartening place to be. My first suggestion is to restore your belief in yourself. Acknowledge the talents you have and that you are trying to improve the situation. You could resort to blame or anger, but are looking for a way to make it better.
 
Sometimes, these are personality situations and not about performance. Other times, there are things that you can improve. Whether you know the cause of the situation or not, there are some things you can do now. Start by listing any/all of the improvements your boss has asked you to make - either indirectly by her criticism or outright. Assess if you have responded to her requests. Then, start observing the situation carefully, so that you can figure out what is going on with her. Is she like this with other people (it may not be about you)? Does she have very high standards that are hard to satisfy? Does she lack emotional intelligence or bring her emotions into the office, projecting them on others without reason?
 
Once you’ve observed for a while, do your best to come up with a strategy to deal with the situation. You may have insights on how you can improve, how you can work more effectively with your boss or you may identify some areas where you must set some boundaries. You could decide that this job is not the best one for you.
           
Your self-confidence is central to your success and fulfillment and to working happy. No one has the right to diminish it. Protect your self-confidence and be the best you can be. Good luck!


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Tips
  • Find a way to bring happiness to others in your workplace. The happiness you bring may very well increase your own.
   
  • No one has the right to devalue you. No one.
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Ann Vanino, owner of Moving Forward Coaching & Consulting, has coached since 1996 and loves her work. She has performed over 3500 hours of coaching, guiding individuals to career success and fulfillment and organizations to maximum performance.

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