Mujeres y Allies,
One of the most basic human tendencies is to compare ourselves with others. We look for where we stand on everything from physical attractiveness, social status, or family life to fashion sense, mannerisms, or interpersonal style. In extreme forms, it’s the source of envy or jealousy. Unfortunately, Latinas are often stereotyped or portrayed as being hypersensitive to jealousy. The fact is that our Latinidad is a collectivist culture--it means we seek out group consensus and group approval more so than emphasizing our individuality. Our culture sees jealousy in a variety of ways--- celos or achares (jealousy), envidia (envy) and codiciar (covet). We have “dichos” that make it part of our folklore: Pican mas los celos que las pulgas (Jealousy itches more than flea bites). Amor sin celos no lo dan los cielos (True love is not real unless there is jealousy). Let’s be clear it’s found among all cultures and experienced by both men and women.
Unfortunately, the workplace is ripe for conflict and tension based on jealousy. If you are caught up focusing on the achievements of others or if you are in the middle of conflict inspired by jealousy with a coworker, it can make work-life stressful and undermine your career. This week’s #3LVCareerHacks is about making sure jealousy doesn’t limit your success.