Having spent two weeks at the most picturesque site you will set eyes on, Villa Vrindavana, the rolling hills of Tuscany provides the backdrop for the most the followers and devotees of Krishna Consciousness.
Aversion to Faultfinding
It is this ‘Aversion to Faultfinding’ that really resonated during my time there. Another way to phrase it is to say 'Avoiding Finding Fault or Faults'.
I’ve come to see that the mind is generally a scheme-making device.
The mind will observe and analyze the world, seeking out what it likes and wants to keep as it’s own whilst eliminating all that doesn’t conform to its model of how things ought to be.
This is why the mind is the go-to tool for the ego.
The Hare Krishnas have as one of their key tenants this idea or attempt to not allow their mind shift into a mode of ‘finding fault’ in any given situation or person.
So when your friend knocks over the glass of water, rather than it being a problem and a sense of separation being the effect between you both, the event actually brings you closer with this teaching in mind.
You don’t blame them, you don’t find fault. You instantly reflect that it was a mistake and that they are after all, are Human just like you.
Even if your mind IS trying to find a fault then perhaps it lies somewhere else and not with them?
Perhaps their hand trembled because they’ve been working hard and they're tired... perhaps something on the radio caught their attention at that precise moment and distracted them.
When we start to shift our perspective of even a simple event like this, the humanity of the other comes in to full focus and as a result the situation brings you closer to them internally, not further away.
This is the base for many other virtuous qualities we seek to cultivate on our spiritual path, for when we can bring people closer to us and open the possibilities of what is happening before us, qualities of compassion begin to bear fruit naturally, qualities of forgiveness, even resilience.
Think of how robust all of our relationships would be with one another if we decided to learn how to not always and automatically ‘find fault’.
What a beautiful teaching this is. Let’s allow it to flourish in our hearts and in our minds.